Wednesday, March 23, 2011

Pieta

A mother and child in the wreckage of Japan.
A mother and child in the wreckage of Japan.
I can't imagine the heartbreak of this woman. I believe she is the child's mother but I have no information about the photograph. Regardless, this anonymous image has been repeated all over, again and again, since the earthquake in Japan.

There is no comfort I can see except in the melding of this pieta with Mary's pieta; Our Lady holding her broken Son at the foot of that instrument of death, the Cross. I don't know what a person can do or say, or what a friend coming in to help can do or say. One can only hold the other. Feel the salt of tears, the sobs. The heaving chest, the blank stare. Absolute pain and loss requires absolute quiet and reflection; the earth feels the blade pierce and cut through, lifting up a patch of ground. Turning over the rich soul-soil of our inner life and exposing it to the light of day. It happens, but we don't like it. But at least we are not alone in it. The Sower sows the seed, the Word, into this empty space in the furrowed heart. We receive it. Never more vulnerable, never more ready than after the rains of sorrow and the storms of suffering. And we hope the seed takes and someday, life returns.

Tuesday, March 22, 2011

One evening an old Cherokee told his grandson about a battle that goes on inside people. He said, "My son, the battle is between 2 "wolves" inside us all.

One is Evil.  It is anger, envy, jealousy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego.

The other is Good.  It is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion and faith."

The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather: 

"Which wolf wins?"

The old Cherokee simply replied, "The one you feed." 

- Author Unknown

Thursday, March 17, 2011

What Shall I Say About the Irish?

What Shall I Say About the Irish?
The utterly impractical, never predictable,
Sometimes irascible, quite inexplicable, Irish.
Strange blend of shyness, pride and conceit,
And stubborn refusal to bow in defeat.

He's spoiling and ready to argue and fight,
Yet the smile of a child
fills his soul with delight.
His eyes are the quickest to well up with tears,
Yet his strength is the strongest
to banish your fears.
His hate is as fierce as his devotion is grand,
And there is no middle ground
on which he will stand.
He's wild and he's gentle,
he's good and he's bad.
He's proud and he's humble,
he's happy and sad.
He's in love with the ocean,
the earth and the skies,
He's enamoured with beauty wherever it lies.
He's victor and victim, a star and a clod,
But mostly he's Irish—
in love with his God.


- Unknown

Wednesday, March 16, 2011

I've been invited to speak at this weekend's Natural Family Planning Network Conference at Our Lady of Good Counsel Trinity Parish in Southampton, PA. Please spread the word about this invaluable resource and opportunity to learn about the mystery and gift of married love! Details below:

Philadelphia Natural Family Planning Network
Philadelphia Catholic Medical Association
St. Mary Medical Center
Archdiocese of Philadelphia Family Life Office

Present
MARRIAGE: A DECISION TO LOVE
NATURAL FAMILY PLANNING AND MARRIAGE PREP

Saturday MARCH 19, 2011
9:00 AM- 4:30 PM
Additional information available at www.pnfpn.org




PROGRAM SCHEDULE
9:00- 9:45 AM        Registration and Continental Breakfast
9:45- 10:00 AM      Opening Prayer, Opening Remarks- Dr. Lester Ruppersberger Pres. PNFPN
10:00- 11:00 AM    Marriage Prep & NFP: At the Service of the Sacrament - Tara Plymouth
11:00- 12:00 PM    Theology of the Body in Marriage Prep - Bill Donaghy
12:05- 1:00 PM       Lunch and Exhibits
1:00-   2:00  PM      God’s Plan for a Joy Filled Marriage - Damon Owens
2:00-   3:00 PM       The Priest- Marriage Prep & NFP -  Fr. Pat McCormick
3:00-   3-15 PM       Break
3:15-  4:15 PM        “The Road Show”- Dr. Les and Betty Ruppersberger
4:15-  4:30 PM        Q & A: Wrap Up; Where do we go from here?
4:30-  4:50 PM        Cardinal Rigali Address
5:15 PM                   Mass at Our Lady of Good Counsel: Cardinal Rigali Celebrant


Friday, March 11, 2011

Shaken


Japan today has suffered an immense earthquake. They are shaking, and we watch in terrible awe as tsunami waves wash over homes and villages in videos posted on websites and blogs all over the world, connecting us instantly in this digital age. Nearly two dozen countries are issued warnings that more may be coming, more waves and more terror. Even to the borders of our land…

Once again in this season of Lent we find ourselves "shaken" in another realm. As the physical world shakes, the realm of the spirit is rocked by news again of the actions of some of Christ's followers who have clearly not followed Christ. These acts have torn at the very fabric of our Catholic heart - and they tear at us in these first days of Lent, stripping us just as Christ was stripped of his robes in His Passion. Horrendous sins that shake us. We deeply feel the tremors and destruction of these sins committed.... and the aftershocks are sure to last throughout this Holy Season of Lent and up to the very shadow of Good Friday's Cross.

Is anything solid anymore, anything reliable, anything sturdy enough for us to walk on without giving way under our feet? 

Lent promises no security either, I'm afraid. Maybe just the opposite. These 40 days are designed to shake us to our foundation as well as anything.

Lent is a Lion. It knock things off our neatly organized shelves. It breaks things, breaks us. It makes us uncomfortable. We are reminded of our own fragility, reminded of our own death, our own sins. Ashes, thorns, nails, hunger, thirst, fasts. We are afraid. We grumble against Lent as this Mysterious Shaker, this Destroyer, this Lion because it strips us down. It cleans house. It takes and scrapes and we are empty, homeless as our brothers and sisters in Japan and so many lands across the earth right now. 

Why take these things from me? My security, my comfort, my routine? Why?

Because there is More coming. Because He is coming, and a terrible beauty will be born if we allow Him to fill us. We were not made for comfort. We were made for greatness… made for a Fullness of Love that the world cannot contain. And so it trembles, it shakes. For us to be filled with this New Love we must first be emptied. As Christ was emptied, as Christ was in an earthquake, then the tomb opened, then Christ was filled with New Life.

I don't like the process either, but if I want the More that I have seen glimmers of in the world, then I have to be willing to let go. All these tiny little strings I've made to secure myself to this world, to be safe, to protect myself.... they keep me tied down. I have to cut them. I have to shake or be shaken, and that is the real question.

Like tsunami waves moving closer to land, we are coming closer everyday of Lent to Mount Calvary, to the cross, to death. The normal human reaction to all of this? Run the other direction. No thank you. But all of us must be shaken up before that final shaking off of our "mortal coil" in death. If we can't allow ourselves to be stripped now, and to enter into the white hot furnace of silence, will we ever know who we truly are? What we're truly made of?

What vision does God have of us... of our full potentiality? He sees us in the storm, He is in the storm too, in Jesus. There in God made flesh,  the ultimate Storm arose, of Love meeting hate, Truth meeting lies, and the battlefield was His Sacred Heart. A Heart wrapped in thorns, and pierced. We must have His Heart. If we can't be stripped on Good Friday, shaken and emptied, can we ever be filled, and clothed in the glory of Easter Sunday? 


Wednesday, March 09, 2011

New Radio Show on Theology of the Body

More2Life
(from the website!)


More2Life is a surprising new radio program that brings the teachings of John Paul II’s Theology of the Body into the practical, everyday experience of life. This live call-in program is hosted by Dr. Greg Popcak and his wife Lisa and airs weekdays at 12PM Eastern/11 AM Central. Dr. Greg and Lisa will help you solve your problems with relevant, relatable and achievable tools and solutions straight from the genius of the Theology of the Body. It’s the life you were meant to live! 

In addition to your calls, we check in each day with our friends from around the country to bring you fresh and exciting discussions on creating the life you were meant to live. Every Monday, we focus on marriage with our friends at the Couple to Couple League and Frank and Julie LaBoda of Retrouvaille. Tuesdays feature Dr. Joe White from the Diocese of Austin and Emily Bissonnette of Ruah Woods on relationships. Every Wednesday, Fr. Thomas Loya of the Tabor Life Institute and the Theology of the Body Institute’s Bill Donaghy comment on culture and life. Thursdays, we look at parenting with Ann Nerbun of Family Honor. And to end the week, we celebrate living large and head to “Life in the Big House” with homeschooling mother of 10, Rachel Watkins.

Thursday, February 24, 2011

Extreme Makeover: Soul Edition

Extreme Makeover: Home Edition (EMH) is a very popular show because many people are not content with things as they are. Present company included.

The gist of the series is to give a complete face-lift to the homes of families who are incredible givers, but are financially strapped, have lost spouses, been wounded in wars, have children with handicaps, or any other series of unfortunate events. They are given a huge influx of charity, and for those of us watching the show from our own apparently mediocre residences, it's a roller coaster ride of emotions. In the end we see the structural face-lift is more deeply realized as a "faith" lift for all involved. Including us.

Our hearts first break with sympathy for the family then explode with jubilation at the gift of the community towards them. It truly is a Cinderella story every week and every season promises buckets o' tears and mountains of tissues. Unlike many reality TV shows today, this one focuses on the good in humanity. It looks to that God-inspired desire deep down in all of us to help the downtrodden, to lift up and encourage one another.

I'm sure we all have dreams that our own homes would have such stellar makeovers. I'm sure we've all imagined, perhaps once a week, how we would breathe easier if Ty Pennington came knocking at our door. But the amazing thing about this show is that many of the people being gifted aren’t thinking of themselves in this way. They have no such “selfish” motives. The winners the EMH crew descend upon are in fact already winners; selfless out of work moms, disabled dad coaches, volunteer veterans down on their luck; these are real community minded people whom the community really wants to see blessed. Many times the families are “nominated” by their neighbors.

There’s a kind of social justice at work here. Ty and the Gang from EMH give the givers a gift. And it's more than a new home; it's a place where their selflessness can truly expand and express itself back into the community with more ease than before. This show is good enabling!

As impressive as the posh living rooms, the fancy couches, and stunning stainless steel appliances are, I think we can say with assurance that there's a deeper beauty under the surface. Sure, they get carried away a bit. "Hi Jimmie, you like horses?" Suddenly the kid's got a corral with 3 live mustangs in his bedroom. "Soooo you girls like fashion?" Bam! There’s a catwalk snaking through the second floor with lights and wardrobes sparkling all around them. (OK, the first was me, but the second was an actual episode). For the most part, this show offers an Extreme Soul Makeover. The living quarters are just an outward sign of our inner life. The two are often connected, aren't they? EMH simply outfits big hearted people (or those with big holes in their hearts from suffering) with big homes to match their hearts.

The home is the symbol of the interior life. Didn't St. Theresa of Avila show us this in her classic work "The Interior Castle"? Have you ever seen the connection yourself? A cluttered room often reveals or even creates a cluttered mind. Pack rats are invited to "let it go" and "it" is usually much more than brown paper packages tied up with string. It’s spiritual, emotional, relational baggage. By turning a pit into an overnight palace, some of these families get a once in a lifetime chance to get out of that rut and into a place of freedom. It’s like St. Therese saying she couldn’t manage the long arduous climb up the mountain of sanctity. She asked Jesus if she in her “littleness” could take the escalator. Sometimes you get what you pray for!

Just one final thought. Say you don’t win the new house. You’re surrounded by a swirl of bills and half-baked plans, always yearning for a way out. You watch the show and dream, but Ty and the Extreme Makeover crew never come to call. Fear not! You’re blessed in a way that Reality TV can't imagine. 
The ancient prophet speaks of God Himself desiring to come to us in all of our weakness and poverty,  even our mediocrity, right where we are, here and now. Here He comes to be with us, as we bear the weight of a heavy mortgage and the chain of bills on our backs. 

"What kind of house can you build for me; what is to be my resting place? ...This is the one whom I approve: the lowly and afflicted man who trembles at my word."
- Isaiah 66:2

That's good enough for me! God offers a makeover of grace that will outlast the finest of fixed up houses on any street. "Unless the LORD build the house, they labor in vain who build." (Psalm 127)

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